This is a recent campaign the Maine Coalition Against Sexual Assault (MECASA) is doing.
(Click the picture for their other posters. They’re pretty good)
I’ve always been opinionated and…quite self righteous about a lot of issues, I guess. I was really lucky in my upbringing and got to experience and engage and fight for things that other kids my age didn’t really have a clue about. I was always taught to be brave, strong and empowered, but be respectful, kind and generous to nature and people alike. And I’ve experienced a lot of the more heartbreaking and damaging things the world can chuck at us, so I don’t generally have a shallow way of looking at things.
So often and on so many levels I hate the world. Stupidity and ignorance and a total lack of care and common decency or respect actually enrages me. Though I stand for human rights and equality, freedom of speech and human decency…in some ways I’m not a fair person, I guess. I will happily judge people and that’s not even something I wanna change about myself.
Sometimes I wish I could be more of a “I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it.” type of person…but I’m not. I don’t have enough faith in society to think that way. Really, I only agree with democracy if the people are smart and capable enough to come to the evolved (right) decision.
I guess people could say that makes me a hypocrite, a bad person or just 'a total bitch', but…when I look at the reality… I can’t be any other way. People suck. And they don’t even care that they suck. What else are you supposed to do with that?
All the Amanda Todd stuff… Her story of life is so fucking sad as it is. She made stupid kid mistakes that literally followed her no matter how far she ran from them and again and again she experienced not only people not willing to give a chance or be a friend, but actually went out of their way to persecute her. That not only thought it was acceptable to treat her the way they did, but got actual fulfilment out of making her feel that worthless and hopeless.
Having kids - kids - post suicide note videos on youtube and ending their lives… that that’s actually a real problem in our society…fucking hell. And the saddest thing about it is how many people are still so shit after the fact. The RIP Amanda Todd tribute facebook pages that have comments like "I hope they have bleach in hell." and "She sounds like she was killed herself cuz she was just lazy." and "Slutty bitch deserved it." and the meme jokes about her that are making the net rounds… Who does that? To have SUCH a lack of human empathy, understanding of action or consequence…
And it’s a real problem. A problem that is bordering on being the standard.
In a couple of days it’ll be wednesday again. Which means #SexistWednesday on Twitter.
This…terribly unoriginal theme that births some mildly amusing but mostly unintelligent one liners - with a rare cracker of originality - hitting on gender stereotypes.
It shouldn’t really be anything. An old, bad joke, that’s it. You hope people are smart enough to understand it for that…but so many people aren’t. Mostly young people, but those people are the ones who clearly need to understand it the most. When you’ve got average people and celebs alike taking part and laughing along with something that when faced with reality situations would easily fight against it… I guess for some it gives a very one-minded impression of what’s okay…
There was a study recently on how many times things like "faggot" and "so gay" and "dyke" were said on twitter. It was from July till September. ‘Faggot’ was said 2.4 millions times within that short period. That’s an average of 30,000 times a day. Over 200,000 times a week.
Mostly all completely mindless comments all implying an insult. A title of being something shitty and wrong. So, what does that mean, for us, for them as society?
I remember when the "that’s so gay" term really took off. I unsurprisingly didn’t have much tolerance for people declaring that ‘gay’ now meant ‘shit’ or ‘lame’. Especially because it was said so often with a complete lack of understanding of what they were actually saying. Even people I adored who were good and for gay rights would sometimes say it… Simply because they were influenced by the people in their lives. People who didn’t actually really have anything against gays, but also didn’t really have anybody in their lives to look at them when they said it and go 'Do you realise the utter unintelligent shit that just came out of your mouth'
I would get…pretty angry about it, really. And utterly shame them for their stupid and ignorant phrasing.
And then a couple years ago I…chilled a bit, and actually started using the term. Not as the majority had, but when I meant it literally. My boyfriend and I would tease my sister or LGBT friends when they did or said something that literally was so fucking gay. And they would laugh and be proud of the homo moment they had. I guess it was like the Slutwalk kinda attitude. Maybe even a reformed ‘Nigga’ take. Reclaiming it…or something. It made it better for me anyway. Less angry, I guess.
I guess the endless AIDS jokes is the other main trend. Not something I can find funny. Not something I can find intelligence in. The only AIDS joke I have ever found funny is the 'Everyone has AIDS' song by Trey Parker in Team America. And that’s only because I’ve been a massive RENT fan since I was a teenager and the 'Everyone has AIDS' song as a direct mocking and comparison to RENT IS realistic and so IS funny.
Anything else…*shakes head*
It shouldn’t take people having to experience watching their loved one die before they understand that wow, that joke really isn’t funny. I shouldn’t have to take people to a service on Worlds AIDS Day, stick a red ribbon on them and make them watch people cry over the thought of their lost loved ones who died such long and painful deaths, and then ask them at the end of the night to please explain the joke to me, tell me why it’s such a fucking hilarious scenario.
We’re supposed to be better than that. We’re perfectly capable of being better than that.
I watch a lot of tennis and in-between points when some of the men change their tops and the crowd cheers I always - ALWAYS - go through the same thought process, every time.
Does it bother them they’re being leered at?
What do they think that for those 30 seconds they suddenly became SO sexualised?
They girls can’t do that…that’s not fair.
Could they do it, or would that be public indecency?
I guess it is fair because the girls can take a comfort break and go change inside if they want.
But then so can the guys, so do they just not care?
Or is it because of the projected idea that they should ‘man up’ and enjoy the wolf whistling?
Does it even matter to them at all?
When you have people like Sarah Jessica Parker - who is the ultimate commercial face for women empowered and sexual revolution in the 20th century - saying "I don’t think of myself as a feminist or not; I think of myself as equal". it makes me worry for people. That’s exactly what a feminist is, lady. Feminism is not about angry women hating on men and demanding to be recognised as more than men… It’s about equality. That’s it. So trust me love, you, being a woman who is a mother and works and speaks freely and openly, wears what she wants and has rights, you ARE a feminist. If you’re not? Go cover your body, let your husband fuck you while you moan only for his pleasure until your swelling with another baby, then pick up the broom and shut the hell up. And make sure you keep your eyes down and don’t even think about addressing any men in the room.
I don’t care if you’re wearing jeans, a mini skirt, are out unaccompanied, having sex on tap with multiple partners, earn money, speak with opinion… Any and ALL of those things makes you a damn feminist. Your actions are standing and telling of the very fight for feminism. “It’s technically impossible for a woman to argue against feminism. Without feminism, you wouldn’t be allowed to have a debate on a woman’s place in society.”
We’re kind of in a special state of society these days. This generation. The social media society. We all have this vast platform for potential power and influence, and so often we’re not good enough for it. Not smart enough, not knowledgeable enough… And it completely severs the idea of responsibility or consequence. Allows us to treat each other not as people. As something tangible, warm with a breakable heart.
There was this post on the Big Brother facebook that got repeatedly posted, about how BB should change for the good and have homeless people as contestants instead cuz oh my god, isn’t that just the best and selfless idea? Wow, so innovative… Fuck it pissed me off. Literally hundreds of thousands of people liked these posts. I couldn’t fucking believe people were so stupid, so thoughtless. Did they really not get what they were actually saying? How could they not get it? Were they just stupid or were they just not capable of actually looking at the reality of the situation they were promoting…or did they just simply not care enough to actually value it?
And in the comments of the posts were many ‘Ugh, homeless people only have themselves to blame!’ type comments, which yes, pissed me off, but not as much as the people hailing it the best idea and raving about how great and nice an idea it was, did. Simply because it’s usually easier to block out mean spirited people. It’s the uninformed ones claiming something good and getting listened to that’s the dangerous stuff. I mean, of course it fucking is. They had hundreds of thousands of people - actually hundreds of thousands of people! - thinking it was a genius and charitable idea to basically send the message of ‘hey, lets have a bunch of homeless people fight for shelter, food, and a large of sum money, all for our entertainment!’ Not thinking for a second that those people have either mental, social or financial issues that need long term, informed care. Not thinking how fucked up the psychology of going into Big Brother actually is for someone who isn’t a simple, one track kinda minded person.
The reality of it all occurred to so few, it genuinely scared me.
And how few said ‘Eh, if you really wanna help homeless people, volunteer, give money, or even just acknowledge a homeless person on the street as an actual person’ just made me so sad. Madness.
And it’s like that with so many things now. Things go viral so easily with so many people jumping on the wagon and not realising what any of it actually means.
Things become so casual and disposal. Responsibility lacks.
And I don’t even really know who to blame except all of us. Is it simply that shit breeds more shit? I know that sometimes in situations you can have the best parents who teach their kids right from wrong and decent from disrespect, the best teachers who give mind and energy to educate properly, and even the best friends who promote sanity and stability and fun… but sometimes somehow through one or all of those things…you still get shit, bratty little kids who just don’t care and happily cause harm and destruction….
And now I’m wondering if maybe I’m just as bad really because I’m someone who does put so much energy into being informed and being active in communities and activism in general. I go to lectures and demonstrations and I march for the right, but… Well, my life definitely isn’t black and white and it’s never been sheltered. In the shallowest form I still make teamed jokes to one of my best friends calling him ‘scenbean’ because he’s SUCH the little scenester and I regularly refer to him as a lesbian because he reacts like such a stereotypical woman is so many ways, but still digs le ladies… I guess I allow such jokes with the comfort that it’s okay because I know better and more on a wide-scale….but maybe I’m just as bad? Maybe I’m just as much the bad influence, giving the impression that gender type mocking is a-okay on all levels…
I fight against sexual assault and I think it’s an important issue that needs attention; will always need attention and energy and awareness, but I promote and practice BDSM and sexual play and have done since way before it was legal for me to do so…
So on some level - in the level that is the reality of this current climate of people - am I just as bad as any rape joke out there that gives the impression that rape is hilarious or okay or the attitude of 'Hm, well, rape is tricky. I mean sometimes a girl says no but really she just wants you do her real good and hard. I mean, her outfit is proof of that!'?
I’m against violence but I religiously watch and support WWE and TNA and passionately believe that the whole thing is fucking genius with some of the best, most talented and intelligent people involved. Does that mean that on some level I’m okaying meaningless violence for pay to kids?
I don’t think in simple terms but in my head things are so fucking easy to identify for exactly what they are and I hate that everybody isn’t as pedantic as me, that it apparently isn’t as easy for people to differentiate between things within a very narrow subgroup of a subject.
I don’t wanna live in a hardcore politically correct world where you can’t open your mouth and share a poor, tasteless joke. Where everybody has to be submissive and cautious cuz people are so mindless that the lines all blur and a subject matter suddenly has one meaning only. I want variation, colour, faults.
But even less so do I want to live in a world where stupidity and ignorance and a lack of decency and empathy is the standard; which is something that’s happening now. People literally do not understand the consequences of their actions, and they don’t even care to. And it’s not a growing epidemic of sociopathy. It’s just that they’re not taught or experienced. The younger generation hates and crumbles, which makes us crumble. Casual hate (and hate crime) is on a rise - mix it in with the platform for power the social networking society brings, it’s bad. And people, kids, just don’t care. It’s not because they have twisted set beliefs and ideals and are fighting for something - least I could respect that on some messed up kinda level - it’s just that they don’t care. And they can do so much harm so carelessly. And the only way to stop that is if the smart and capable people consciously choose to. Choose to show something else, choose not to put up with it. Choose to show everybody something better…
Although, fuck *laughs* I say that when the American presidential election is so damn close and there’s a very real possibility that stupidity could win that one… It’s difficult to know what to do when shit like that happens.
I used to think that sometimes it’s really okay for people to be pretty stupid. As long as they weren’t causing harm to anybody then did it really matter? Especially if they were nice, cuz that was so much more important anyway, right? But sadly I really feel like in this kind of world that we’ve set up for ourselves, a world with such a shift that spotlights us all equally as easy potentials for celebrity or hate… I think it really does matter.